O, Kate is perfect for you! I'm strange in that I often visualize people in scenes from movies as a way to help me remember important information about them . . . name, location, occupation, status . . . interests . . . whatever it is that I need to remember about them for future conversations or my own edification. I've often visualized you as Kate as Eleanor in Lion in Winter...in charge, keeping track of the comings and goings and plots and bits of information and giving not a fig (in public) for what any one thinks about her, her actions or motivations.