I love a good same-sex romance, though I do tend to read more of the male/male variety. I haven't run across a lot of good lesbian romances, but I'm not really sure where to start looking.

I'm both amused by the tongue-in-cheek way in which you talk about your romantic roadblocks and the conventions of the romance genre and intrigued by the little tidbits you've thrown out as examples.

In cultures where men had multiple wives, would/could the women have had relationships with each other, either completely clandestine or as a sort of "open secret" among the wives?

Also, I love to read/listen to people's musings about their writing.