Wedding Review, and The Next Step
Oct. 28th, 2007 07:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hrjYesterday I carpooled down to Monterey with a co-worker to attend another co-worker's wedding. The wedding itself was at the Old Whaling Station right by Monterey's fisherman's wharf -- a picturesque little garden setting out behind a historic building. (Naturally, for me the most memorable aspect of the building was that the front porch area was paved with tiles made from whale vertebrae.) There were enough other folks from the Big B that I didn't feel too out of place not knowing either of the families ... although I did end up having a long conversation with the groom's aunt explaining just what it was that the bride did for a living. The ceremony was enjoyably brief, and I found myself guilty of some cultural assumptions when I realized I was surprised that it wasn't a traditional Spanish-Catholic wedding. Silly me. (There were a couple of religious elements -- a friend of the groom was asked to offer a "Native American inspired" blessing that I would have labelled neo-Pagan if it hadn't been given that introduction, and a relative of the bride offered a pre-dinner blessing that she made sure to let us know was in the Baptist style. So quite a varied flavor.) The reception was in the 10th floor ballroom of a nearby hotel with an absolutely stunning view of Monterey Bay. The dinner broke all my assumptions about hotel catering banquets, being both delicious and served at a good tempo (once they got started -- we were nearly at the chewing on napkins stage when over an hour and a half had passed since the last glimpse of an hors d'oeuvre). I was seriously impressed by the bride's skill in "working the room". She'd mentioned at one point that her parents did "society parties" and it's clear that the expertise has rubbed off. The only real downer of the evening was the steadily increasing decibel level of the music (both dj and live band). By the time the food was coming out, conversation was pretty much impossible unless you were shouting in someone's ear, and I was finding the music physically painful. The pre-schooler at our table (my boss's daughter) was of a similar opinion and spent the last hour of the evening with her hands over her ears. (Given the late hour and the noise level, I was surprised that there weren't any kid-meltdowns -- the reception was all-in-all very child-friendly, with little kits of wedding coloring books, and a special child menu for dinner.) I can't figure out whether I'm just abnormally sensitive to noise levels or what, but I can't understand how anyone can enjoy that sound volume.
I've taken the next step in my Scheduled Blind Date Program by posting the following item on the local Craig's List:
Seeking Blind Date for Cal Performances 11/9 -- 49 (Oakland)
So here's the deal. I want to create a paradigm shift for my search for romance and a potential life-partner, since the whole "just waiting for the right woman to happen to come along" thing hasn't been working for me. Having had some recent successes in changing aspects of my life by means of structured planning and a program of incremental goals, I've entered into what I'm calling my Planned Blind Date Program. It's all about changing habits and working outside my comfort zone.
I've bought pairs of tickets to a series of Cal Performances events that appeal to me and have set myself the goal to line up a blind date for each of them. I'm not looking for a commitment. I'm not looking for perfect compatibility. I'm just looking for a date. At the moment, I'm specifically looking for a date for the evening of Friday November 9, for the American Ballet Theatre performance of a set of Twyla Tharp dances. (This is in Berkeley.)
The only restrictions I have at the moment is that it has to be a sincere "date". That is, you have to be a woman, potentially romantically interested in women, single, and available.
Do I have other preferences and desires for a potential romantic relationship? Sure. A whole laundry list. But I'm not going to put the whole weight of my future hopes on a single date. "Incremental goals" and all that.
The same offer is also open to any of my LJ readership, of course!
I've taken the next step in my Scheduled Blind Date Program by posting the following item on the local Craig's List:
Seeking Blind Date for Cal Performances 11/9 -- 49 (Oakland)
So here's the deal. I want to create a paradigm shift for my search for romance and a potential life-partner, since the whole "just waiting for the right woman to happen to come along" thing hasn't been working for me. Having had some recent successes in changing aspects of my life by means of structured planning and a program of incremental goals, I've entered into what I'm calling my Planned Blind Date Program. It's all about changing habits and working outside my comfort zone.
I've bought pairs of tickets to a series of Cal Performances events that appeal to me and have set myself the goal to line up a blind date for each of them. I'm not looking for a commitment. I'm not looking for perfect compatibility. I'm just looking for a date. At the moment, I'm specifically looking for a date for the evening of Friday November 9, for the American Ballet Theatre performance of a set of Twyla Tharp dances. (This is in Berkeley.)
The only restrictions I have at the moment is that it has to be a sincere "date". That is, you have to be a woman, potentially romantically interested in women, single, and available.
Do I have other preferences and desires for a potential romantic relationship? Sure. A whole laundry list. But I'm not going to put the whole weight of my future hopes on a single date. "Incremental goals" and all that.
The same offer is also open to any of my LJ readership, of course!
